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Giving Compliments to Women
« on: August 29, 2016, 08:21:01 am »
Pheromone Sciences - Giving Compliments to Women
Compliments are a simple but effective way to make a woman you are interested in feel special. However, most men don't know how to give good compliments. Here are just a few basic tips:

Make Sure You Come Up With Something Original
Don't use generic compliments - they are corny, boring and there's absolutely no doubt she heard that kind of compliment a thousand times before. Typical vague compliments are often completely ignored by women so make your compliments detailed.

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Try to give a unique compliment about a certain characteristic that most people overlook. For example, never tell her how beautiful she is, because everyone has said that to her. Compliment a woman for her intelligence. Also, consider commenting on actions instead on looks. Even an extremely gorgeous woman will love being complimented on more than just her appearance.

Don't Overuse Compliments
If you compliment her too often, it will make you look like a pathetic wuss who is seeking approval. And it can be really annoying. For every compliment that you give her, tease her and poke fun at her insecurities at least twice. Be careful with this -  a lady must know that you are just having fun with her. :)

  • Give a compliment that reflects the effect that she has on you.
  • This kind of compliment emphasizes the relationship between the two of you, rather than just the things she does.
"Opposites attract" is a law of attraction, at least where electromagnetism is concerned. But are there laws about attraction between two people? "In a world that is full of strangers" as a line in a famous song of the 1980's goes, is there a clear set of rules that allows two people to fall for each other?

This, like in the case of insects and other mammals, was to ensure better and healthier characteristics for their future children. But researchers also cautioned that preference for a male odor is affected by the women's ovulation period, the food that men eat, perfumes and other scented body products, and the use of contraceptive pills. Perhaps you may not have been interested in this passage on Human Pheromones. In that case, please don't spread this feedback around!

This could probably account for a statement commonly heard from men and women on their failed relationships: "I thought he/she was this kind of person." :)

Some scientists believe that animals (usually the females) such as insects and mammals send out these chemical signals to tell the male of their species that their genes are different from theirs. This gene diversity is important in producing offspring with better chances of survival. Perfection has been achieved in this article on Human Pheromones. There is hardly any matter left from this article that is worth mentioning.Perfection has been achieved in this article on Human Pheromones. There is hardly any matter left from this article that is worth mentioning.

So How Does Attraction Figure in Relationships?
You have probably heard that attraction is a prelude, or a factor towards a relationship. Most probably, at least in the beginning; but attraction alone cannot make a relationship work. It is that attraction that makes you notice a person from the opposite sex, but once you get to know the person more, attraction is just one consideration. Shared values, dreams, and passions become more significant in long-term relationships.

Most scientists would assert that these do not exist, or if they do, do not play a role in sexual attraction between a man and a woman. But new researches such as that conducted by Swiss researchers from the University of Bern led by Klaus Wedekind are slowly making these scientists rethink their stand.

Does Personality Figure in Sexual Attraction?
Yes, but so does your perception of a potential mate's personality.   According to a research conducted by Klohnen, E.C., & S. Luo in 2003 on interpersonal attraction and personality, a person's sense of self-security and at least the person's perception of his/her partner were found to be strong determinants of attraction in hypothetical situations.


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Attraction a Matter of Chemistry?
Maybe. According to scientists, the attraction between animals of the opposite sex is all about chemicals called pheromones. The effect of pheromones in behavior of insects is the most studied to date.

The perfume industry has capitalized on pheromones as a means to increase one's sexual attractiveness to the opposite sex. Animals such as the whale and the musk deer were hunted down for these chemicals. If there is the slightest possibility of you not getting to understand the matter that is written here on Human Pheromones, we have some advice to be given. Use a dictionary!

  • Has been observed, at least in some experiments, that pheromones are responsible for communication among same species and colony of ants.
  • The horrible odor released by skunks to ward off enemies is said to be a kind of pheromone.
  • Some species of apes rub pheromone-containing urine on the feet of potential mates to attract them.
  • Where your emotions are concerned, just ask this to yourself: would you want to spend time with a person who feels insecure about him/herself?
  • Probably not!
  • This article serves as a representative for the meaning of Human Pheromones in the library of knowledge.
  • Let it represent knowledge well. :D
  • Their experiment involved women sniffing the cotton shirts of different men during their ovulation period.
  • It was found out that women prefer the smell of men's shirts that were genetically different, but also shared similarities with the women's genes.
Lately, scientists are looking into the existence of human pheromones women testosterone in mate selection. There are many conflicting views in the realm of biology, chemistry, genetics, and psychology.

So Should I Stop Trying to Become Attractive?
More than trying to become physically attractive, work on all aspects of your health: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Physical attraction is still a precursor. Remember, biology predisposes us to choose the partner with the healthiest genes.

  • There is wisdom in knowing yourself: who you are, your beliefs, values, and dreams.
  • Don't pretend to be someone you aren't.
  • Fooling another person by making him/her think that you share the same values and beliefs is only going to cause you both disappointments.
What does this tell us? We prefer a certain personality type, which attracts you to a person. But aside from the actual personality of the person, which can only be verified through close interaction through time, it is your perception of your potential partner that attracts you to him/her, whether the person of your affection truly has that kind of personality or not. :)

Useful, Although Reductive, Theory on Attraction Comes from Evolutionary Psychology
It holds that we are drawn to others on the basis of our assessment of their reproductive fitness. We weigh up physical qualities (symmetry, health, youth, strength in men, child-bearing indicators in women), material possessions (wealth), social skills (status, charity, humour, confidence) and cultural factors (fashion, weight, skin tone, hair styles, body decoration). We have roughly standardized perceptions of 'attractive' individuals, though it can vary over history and in different parts of the world.

An available person is likely to send out the right signals when they are self-contented. It is a clich, but a relevant one - when we can accept and love ourselves, we are in a good position to be accepted and loved by another. Inner confidence makes itself visible to potential partners. It is more convincing than 'fake' confidence (though sometimes in imagining ourselves confident, we can become it). This is why many happily committed individuals can be so appealing to others.

Various Factors can be At Play During the Initial Attraction
Sometimes it begins as physical impulse - pheromones doing their work - and sometimes it starts as an emotional connection first. Usually it involves an implicit assessment of the other's suitability as a potential mate (genetic donor) and/or a long-term partner (protector of self and of future offspring). This entails a complex interplay of observation (often matching them up to our ideal, or even setting them up as an ideal), reaction (via chemicals and body language) and interaction. :o.

Ideas about Compatibility Include 'Opposites Attract' and 'Like-Minded Attract'
There seems to be clinical support for both positions. On the one hand we may be drawn to individuals who have characteristics we lack. They may reflect our shadow side - the elements that reside within us but which we refuse to acknowledge. They may also balance or complement our personalities. Some examples of differences include highly-driven v. relaxed, artistic v. scientific, sporty v. sedate and introverted v. extroverted. On the other hand, like-minded individuals may connect well because it widens the field of interaction, for example sports lovers can play and watch games together, and extroverts can socialize happily. What seems important in either of these positions is that the underlying core values are congruent. Ethical and social ideals tend to be matched in solid partnerships. We have avoided adding flimsy points on Pheromones, as we find that the addition of such points have no effect on Pheromones.

  • Generally speaking, we select partners that are roughly similar to our own level of 'reproductive attractiveness' (measured in the wide sense).
  • This means that it is not only the most 'attractive' individuals who manage to form partnerships - there is someone for everyone.
An excellent book that deals with attraction from an evolutionary perspective is 'The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature' by Geoffrey Miller. His hypothesis is that a lot of how we conduct our lives e.g. high status jobs, creative work, being charitable or popular for example, sends signals to attract potential partners.

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